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Breast Reduction and Emotions

Breast Reduction and Emotions

Postby TANYAKAPINKANDGREEN » Fri Aug 31, 2007 9:34 am

Do any of you ladies think that BR has an emotional impact on you? The reason I am asking is because I was asked by one of my Pastors ( who happens to be a women) if I had any counseling prior to my surgery beyond the educational aspect and I told her no and did not know of anyone else that had. She went on to explain that BR has to have an emotional impact on us because it is almost like a loss or death. Primarily because our breast have been a hugh part of who we are, how we carry ourselves and how we feel about ourselves. Regardless of it is for cosmetic or for medical necessity it has a great impact on our self image and self esteem. I must admit that I have had an array of emotions ranging from excitement to fear of what my husband or others think. I have even read that someone on the forum experienced some slight sadness one day when looking at larger breast women. As women I believe that we try to resume our activities like business as usual and not address our inner most feelings. It seems like most comments or questions on the forum are related to healing physically, purchasing bras, and getting opinions, and I just wanted to see if others feel like they have impromptu emotional moments and if they associated it with their surgery? And if so, I believe that it is perfectly normal.
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Postby Roz1955 » Fri Aug 31, 2007 1:49 pm

I suffered some depression after my surgery which I was totally unprepared for. It passed thank goodness but now realize that it was a very emotional time for me. I had those large droopy boobs for almost 40 years and as much as I hated them they were a huge part of who I was. I am loving my new look now but it did take time to adjust to. Doctors do not prepare you for the emotions you might have after the surgery. I could not have made it through without the women on this website.
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Postby twilight » Fri Aug 31, 2007 3:17 pm

Hi...I talked to my hairdresser today as she had a BR in the past. She said she struggled afterwards and advised me to be prepared for a bout of depression...Just what I wanted to hear!

As scared as I am of the results, I should have counseling beforehand! :lol:
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Postby Ninkasi » Fri Aug 31, 2007 6:02 pm

The main emotional impact I experienced was that my self-esteem went up. Now people talk to me, not my chest, and clothes shopping has gone from a chamber of horrors to a pleasant--even fun!--experience. That may sound shallow, but I'm not really an emotional person. The fact is, the surgery made my day-to-day life easier on a logistical level.

My mental image of myself never matched what I saw in the mirror. Now it's a lot closer. Someone on MMH has an avatar that's a housecat looking into a mirror to see the reflection of a lion--I was like that but in reverse, the swan seeing the ugly duckling reflected.

Having said that, when I consider what a huge surge of positive emotion I got, it unfortunately makes sense that somebody else could have an equally big surge in the negative direction. If a person is ambivalent about the surgery, or just concerned in general, maybe counseling is not a bad thing. You know, shared burdens are lighter and all that. And I think you're right--with all the different women who have the surgery for all these different reasons, there are no "incorrect" emotional responses.
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Postby tiggertwo » Sat Sep 01, 2007 3:35 pm

Boy, I love reading these boards. I haven't had my surgery yet and I can't fathom being depressed. I pick up my breasts one at a time and say "I hate you" to each of them. They have defined so much of my life for so long in such a negative manner. I can't wait to be "normal". I looked at bras the other day in what will probably be my new size and I almost started to cry with excitement and disbelief. Having said all that, it will be a big change and I'm sure it can be a bit of a roller coaster in terms of how one is feeling.

I had surgery last year - total thyroidectomy - and I remember talking to someone who had had the same surgery. She said about 6 months after the surgery, she went into a bit of a depression. She realized that she was mourning a losss. I haven't felt that, but the boobs are a bit more noticeable than the thyroid :) So I will try to be prepared for anything and everything.
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Postby kpa2007 » Sat Sep 01, 2007 3:57 pm

Hi tiggertwo,

How interesting--I had a total thyroidectomy in February of this year, too. I did get a little depressed and mourned the loss of my thyroid. But, I really didn't want to lose my thyroid as it is a crucial organ of the body.

I had such terrible neck pain, which drove me to get some of the weight off my neck--an albatross of almost four pounds! So, unlike the thyroidectomy, I really wanted the reduction!

I got depressed when I experienced the healing problem, so, yes, I think the body is traumatized so it definitely has an effect on the hormones and everything.
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Postby tiggertwo » Sat Sep 01, 2007 9:36 pm

Hi kpa,

Wow, a thyroid and BR buddy! Cool. Did you have thyroid cancer? Mine fortunately turned out not to be cancer, but I had such a large growth (it was visible - I called it my Adam's apple) that it was pushing my esphogasus (sp?) out of alignment. I felt so much healthier afterwards. My only concern was having to take medication every day for the rest of my life, but so far that experience has gone quite well. Someone said that I'm working my way down my body - first my neck (thyroid), next my breasts, who knows what will be next? Little tummy tuck, perhaps. :lol:

That's an interesting point about losing a vital organ. I guess I was so scared of the surgery that my only focus was on getting through that successfully without a nasty scar (because of the visible location). My surgery was very successful and my scar faded beautifully. That's what gave me the courage to go ahead with the BR actually.

BTW, I know you post a lot of messages on this board and I just want to say thank you. You're very informative and positive, despite having some setbacks along the way. Hope you are feeling a lot better now.
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Postby boobsbegone » Sun Sep 02, 2007 5:23 am

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tiggertwo wrote:Boy, I love reading these boards. I haven't had my surgery yet and I can't fathom being depressed. I pick up my breasts one at a time and say "I hate you" to each of them. They have defined so much of my life for so long in such a negative manner. I can't wait to be "normal". I looked at bras the other day in what will probably be my new size and I almost started to cry with excitement and disbelief. Having said all that, it will be a big change and I'm sure it can be a bit of a roller coaster in terms of how one is feeling.


That is exactly how I felt about my boobs. Funny you mentioned wanting to be normal and nearly crying about the bras you are going to be able to wear - I did the exact same thing and the wanting to be normal part was huge. I did have some down days after the surgery, but they passed quickly. I suppose being on anti-depressants for post partum depression helped.

Good luck with your surgery. :D
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Postby boobalicious » Sun Sep 02, 2007 11:14 am

I was a woman emotional roller coaster for about a month after my surgery. I'm not normally a particularly moody person, but I was the queen of mood swings. Right now, I'm happy with my breasts. I've started to fit into a C cup in some bras. (Down from a G!) I'm really happy that I did this!!!
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Postby B-cupOrBust » Sun Sep 02, 2007 1:33 pm

Hi - I don't think I suffered with depression afterward, thankfully. I do know that the self-esteem I lacked before is gradually increasing...more and more these days. I think in part I feel better about how I look in clothes...less self-conscious of how much of my image was my boobs, and so I think I carry myself better as well. A plus has been I have noticed men looking at me now...before when they would look at me I felt like it was just my boobs and god knows what they were thinking. Now I feel like they just think I'm attractive (well, who knows what else) but it's not a giant boob attractiveness, just an overall one. I think I'm as average as the next person. My hurdle has been to realize that my image is now not all about boobs.

In fact - I just had an interview last week with my current employer. It would be a promotion and more money. I bought an outfit off the rack!!!!, got a new hair cut and felt great about myself. I didn't feel I was tugging at my clothes. I just felt good - confident - and was able to concentrate on the interview instead of my image.

My best to you all in this process of change!
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Postby lightshiner » Sun Sep 02, 2007 9:05 pm

In the book, When Less is More by Snodgrass, the Dr mentions about the manipulation of the breast tissues affecting hormones and the emotional shifts included. This book helped me so much! It is common, normal and expected to have emotional issues after a breast reduction.
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Postby tiggertwo » Mon Sep 03, 2007 6:48 am

Jannie, I have to agree about the book. I have it as well and I dip into different parts of it each day, after having read the whole thing (except for the insurance piece which doesn't apply to me, as a Canadian). It answers so many of my questions and tells me stuff I never would have even thought to think about. A great investment!
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Postby TANYAKAPINKANDGREEN » Mon Sep 03, 2007 8:48 am

Thanks ladies! I am going to purchase the book it sounds like something I can use and learn from.
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Postby jb73 » Wed Sep 05, 2007 7:39 am

interesting that this topic should come up.
My kids - aged 5 and 2.5 - are spending the week on 'vacation' at their grandparents while i have my surgery on friday. Having to say bye to them was heart breaking, and i'm even welling up now. Yes, i will miss them - but am secretly looking forward to the break
:oops: - but i just now came to the realization that my life is completely changing and i won't be the same old mom when i see them again. I will be new and improved. I know this, but they don't. Never thought about it, but i guess i'm mouring ahead of time.
Though i'm very excited, i guess the nerves are starting to kick in too. It was almost 1am before i could sleep last night.
I'm now at the point - 2 days away - where i just wish it was today!!!
I'm sure that everyone in their own way feels some loss after the surgery - anywhere from a just a bad day to a true depression.

I wish everyone good health - physical and emotional - oh......and the boobs they desire :D
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Postby kpa2007 » Wed Sep 05, 2007 9:43 am

tiggertwo wrote:Hi kpa,

Wow, a thyroid and BR buddy! Cool. Did you have thyroid cancer?


Yes, actually I did have microscopic cancer, but they assured me when they removed my thyroid it was all gone. I also had the enlargement (goiter) and the growths were also wrapped around the windpipe. I, too, felt like I was given a new lease on life afterwards. My scar has receded into my neck, I hardly notice it or even think of cancer anymore :-). Oh yeah, I don't like being dependent on a little pill, either :-(, but I suppose there are far worse things in life!


BTW, I know you post a lot of messages on this board and I just want to say thank you. You're very informative and positive, despite having some setbacks along the way. Hope you are feeling a lot better now.


No problemo! I am doing well now, and I'm very happy to have done the breast reduction. But, I'm going to stop at the breasts, no more surgeries for me lol!

I hope you are healing well with your breast reduction. It's good that you waited a year in between surgeries. I waited four months only, but I got my approval in December for the breast reduction and had to get my thyroid removed first. As they were wheeling me in for the thyroid operation I joked with them and asked them if they could take care of the boobs at the same time...
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