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husband grossed out by breast reduction surgery

Postby bapps » Mon Apr 27, 2009 7:55 am

your husband had to take your staples out?!?!? oh HELL NO! i barely trust my hubby with a zipper!

stormi - hugs honey :)
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this is so very helpful

Postby healbroheal » Mon Apr 27, 2009 7:15 pm

My wife recently got a reduction. I was against it, and I haven't been 100% supportive, but I have tried to be understanding. I never checked out any of the pictures she tried to show me or watch any of the videos online because I just don't like watching that sort of stuff. After reading this thread, I know now that I need to tell her that. Thanks to you ladies (and gentlemen) I know that when she wakes up tomorrow I need to tell her why I've been so hesitant to hug her, too.

Ladies: it's tough on us guys. I love every part of my wife, seen and unseen, but still... my wife's breasts were my favorite of all of her physical attributes... and now they're gone, and she looks like a different person, and that's... weird. I don't know what the equivalent would be to a woman.

Thanks, though, for posting your experiences. This really helps.

Glad you're happy, stormijones!
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Re: this is so very helpful

Postby bapps » Tue Apr 28, 2009 7:16 am

healbroheal wrote:My wife recently got a reduction. I was against it, and I haven't been 100% supportive, but I have tried to be understanding. I never checked out any of the pictures she tried to show me or watch any of the videos online because I just don't like watching that sort of stuff. After reading this thread, I know now that I need to tell her that. Thanks to you ladies (and gentlemen) I know that when she wakes up tomorrow I need to tell her why I've been so hesitant to hug her, too.

Ladies: it's tough on us guys. I love every part of my wife, seen and unseen, but still... my wife's breasts were my favorite of all of her physical attributes... and now they're gone, and she looks like a different person, and that's... weird. I don't know what the equivalent would be to a woman.

Thanks, though, for posting your experiences. This really helps.

Glad you're happy, stormijones!


thanks for posting this healbro :) it's nice to get some male perspective too
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Postby ishlkabbibles » Tue Apr 28, 2009 8:04 am

I'm with bapps, thanks healbroheal!!!! We don't always know what it's like from the other side, we just get this coldness and we don't understand that you guys are upset either.
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Re: husband grossed out by breast reduction surgery

Postby BoneyJo » Wed Mar 27, 2013 11:59 pm

I had my breast reduction surgery 3 weeks ago and love them. They are so cute. I had belt hangers before. The problem is my husband. We have been together 38 yrs, I was 18 when we got married and he was 20 and he acts like he wants nothing to do with me. It makes me question his commitment to me. Why can't he be happy for me. I physically feel better. Then 2 weeks after that I had an eye lift done, medically necessary. For the 1st time in my life I like the way I look and I can't share my joy with the man in my life. He doesn't tell me I'm pretty, or support me. I feel so hurt I am questioning whether I want to stay with this man. I feel so lonely. He hardly even touches me at all unless I "make" him and then it's 1/2 hearted and only a kiss. I have told him it's ok to touch them, but he wants nothing to do with them, Any suggestions as to what I can do. I'm not getting bigger boobs for him.

Feeling very sad and frustrated.
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Re: husband grossed out by breast reduction surgery

Postby jessicarabbitmiami » Sun Apr 21, 2013 4:05 pm

I am very sorry that he seems grossed out. Are you still healing? He might just be afraid to hurt you, or he might be hurt that you don't care how he feels about the whole situation. It took my hubby a long time (years) to finally "get it", to understand why I want a reduction after a BA gone horribly wrong (i.e., huge). He loves my big boobs and considers them his personal gift from god. Taking his feelings into consideration and hearing his point of view went a long way toward him finally seeing my point of view and agreeing that my boobs could be smaller without it affecting his sexual desire for me.
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Re: husband grossed out by breast reduction surgery

Postby Robyne99 » Sat Mar 15, 2014 10:32 am

I know this thread is old now but I'm glad I found it.

I was a 34K ( UK size) and decided that I didn't want to spend the rest of my life suffering from back and shoulder pain. My breasts weighed 4 pounds each!
I told my husband of 30 years that I was having a reduction and he was totally against it. So much so that he refused to allow me to talk about it, refused to take me to the hospital or collect me; never visited me or phoned to see how I was. When I came home after having had over two pounds removed from each breast I tried to tell him how happy I was but he turned his back on me. That was 5 weeks ago.

The reason he gives is that the thought of me being 'cut up and scarred' makes him go cold, and the only way he could cope is by pretending it wasn't happening, and has never happened. He can't look at me and says he doesn't think he can ever look at me.

It's not that he liked me with huge breasts. He isn't interested in breasts, told me at the beginning that he prefers women with small ones or even flat-chested, and has never paid any attention to them during lovemaking.

I feel so hurt, but I'm not prepared to cover them up in front of him for ever.
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Re: husband grossed out by breast reduction surgery

Postby Sandhya60 » Thu Mar 27, 2014 11:39 am

First, I am glad I found this forum, and if you are still weighing in on this before getting the surgery, you may want to go to another topic.. Husbands? Way ahead of you on this one. I have been wanting a breast reduction for over 15 years. I just had mine. I am over 50, which made this whole thing physically more difficult for me than most I think.

My husband and I are past career medics. He was concerned because he viewed the surgery as barbaric, medieval and was sure I was going to have healing problems and infection, that he would have to deal with and thats why he kept saying "Forget about it, dont do it".

Lets just say, me too, I refused to look at myself till I realized the Dr. Said I would need to shower. I was kicking and screaming with myself to not look but had to buck up.
I got over the initial shock but will not show my husband until the scabs, tape and glue are worn off.

I am 2 weeks post op, and have to admit, my husband would think it was akin to seeing an autopsy victim or bride of frankenstein.

I am 2 weeks p.o. still have the tape, scabs on, and I am glad, since I heal slow, as in slllllllooooooooow. I dont want them to come off prematurely and end up with the split skin horror stories I have been seeing.

End result, My husband will not be seeing me until I am ready to show him. I really do not blame him since even though it was medically approved, it was a self determined elective surgery.

We are both older and have had our share of surgeries, but have to admit, this was the hardest physically and mentally surgery I had to do.
Pain meds? Can't take em. I wanted to die and thank goodness I spent the night in the hospital, otherwise, my husband would have had to take me to ER that night for pain. I walked the hallways in in the hospital to keep my mind off it, crying all night long.

2 week P.O. today. Glad I found this forum!
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Re: husband grossed out by breast reduction surgery

Postby RASH328 » Tue May 13, 2014 12:36 pm

My husband is no longer attracted to me after my so called
Scarless Brest reduction. I am 3 months post op.
I was blowing out of size 36ff now I am a 36d. My husband
told me I took away my attraction. That hurt! He is angry and he
no longer holds me at night. Our sex live has not been the same. I feel hurt, because I do care.
Today he made the comparison between my diamond and my breast. He said It would be like taking a big diamond out of my wedding ring and replacing it with a small one.
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