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I am sure everyone has had to deal with what to tell co-workers, etc and I am really not sure. I work with a very tight group and VERY nosy. I work in a big company, but my team and those I encounter are all very sociable and close. A select few people know that I am having lipo, but I don't know what to tell others. I am having lipo to knees, inner/outer thighs and chin. The chin is a very small area and I will be off work 10 days including weekends so I'm hoping that won't be noticeable. I don't know what excuse to give for being off so long and I have a desk job and am predicting I will be in pain when I return so it needs to make sense. I am also single and go on a lot of dates and with my luck will meet Mr. Perfect right before , lol so I need to stay with the same excuse for everyone. My date is less than 5 weeks now so I will probably tell work in another week or so. I also workout constantly and go to the gym with a few co-workers occasionally so my excuse has to be realistic that I still work out leading up to this. Any advice is very much appreciated
I told everyone the truth. Honestly, I'm not ashamed of having lipo and did it for me. I work with a small group (10 or so) and have only had a few negative comments from those who are presumably jealous! lol
lol..i just told the 3 guys that i work wi,th that im going on vaca for 2 weeks...than when i get back and my face is bruised from my rhino, ill tell them i had a deviated septum and i needed to get surgery for it...hopefully they wont notice that my boobs seem more "up",lol...luckily i wear scrubs with a long sleeve shirt so they wont see any bruises from the lipo..
I was in the same boat as you. Although, I told about 15 closest friends, 3 friends at work, I lied to everyone else at work, including my boss. I just told them that my mom (who lives out of state and was coming to take care of me) was coming in from out of state for a week to do some mother daughter bonding and shopping. No one even questioned it, they all said....oh how nice, have a great time. I didn't want to tell anyone I was going somewhere and then have to lie about why I didn't look tan, etc. I also didn't want to say I was out of town and then someone see me out and about.....So tell em you have a friend coming to hang out for a week. They'll buy it!
When I got back to work on day 10 (including weekends), I was still a little stiff and sore after sitting for too long, but I just told people that I had started lifting weights and that I must have over done it. I too have a desk job. The weights thing also worked when on Day 12 I HAD to go down a size in pants. I have never worn snug clothes to work, so when I had to go down a size, no one really noticed...at first. Now I'm down about 2 sizes and they have started saying, WOW! What are you doing you look great. By this time, I had been working out with a trainer (from 4 weeks PO) and so I wasn't lying when I told people I was eating healthy and working out 6-7 days/week.
To this day, (9 weeks PO) my co-workers keep asking me for fitness and nutrition advise!!!! LOL - If only they knew!
I'm not telling anyone either. Only my husband knows. After all is said and done, I might tell my family but not right now because I don't want to be judged. I'm spending my tax return money and I've been saving for a long time.
You could always say you are having some moles surgically removed and it is going to be painful for you to sit for long periods of time. Then you could say you had some complications and was sick you weren't able to eat so you lost a bunch of weight lol!!!
Hi, I find that sticking with the truth (most of it) helps and then you don't have to try to remember who you told what to. Lucky for us women our body and how it functions confuses alot of men and people in general so I just let everyone know I had surgery but I say female issues or " you know- body acting up again" and kinda wince and rub where my ovaries are. It works for me because everyone knows I have been having ovarie issues and issues conceiving but I don't see why you just can't say you had surgery without telling them what kind (you paid for it and not them so I don't think you owe them full disclosure . When I limp around people ask is it my hip or my foot. If you keep it simple and just say oh I had surgery and cut it off- people usually don't pry any further. The attention is kinda interesting I must say.
They knew i went to Dominican republic, but they thought it was for vacation . Of course I wasn't tan when i got back. I told them i burned the 1st day and stayed out the sun, and then there was an overcast. i was walking funny from soreness (i took 1 week off), and my boss caught me holding my back. I said I fell down some stairs lol. Once co worker in my office knows, and another asked her about it, cause my waist is now tiny. She said she didnt know. They know i work out. No one has actually asked me...but im sure they can see the difference. I tried to wear loose shirts, but my results are so dramatic, i can't really hide it.
Very few of my friends know, and only 3 people in my family.
I'm not ashamed, I just dont want to have to explain myself over and over. I just say I work out (cause I do!). I can't wait until summer when they see me in a a dress lol
Thank you so much for all the answers. I think I'm becoming obsessed with these boards, but its such a safe place where people actually understand! Here are my issues/concerns. I am an open book (unfortunately). If I break a fingernail, my whole floor knows about it and everyone I work with seems to live vicariously through me, lol. I tend to tell people way too much, but am really trying to hold back. I had some oral surgery not too long ago and I was so scared that I talked about it non-stop. If all of the sudden I'm gone for quadruple the time without so much as an explanation they are probably going to think something ten times worse than lipo! I have 4 co-workers that know the truth and most of my close friends and my immediate family. My mom is coming to stay with me for 10 days and I will be taking 6 days off of work with 2 weekends in between there.
I am a workout addict and go twice a day so if I had an injury they would know. I work in a very open environment where everything is public knowledge pretty much. I was going to say I had nerve damage or vascular problems in my legs but I love the idea of "female issues" I did have cervical surgery last year and I think that sounds so realistic and no one is going to question that and if they do, I can just say its personal or I don't feel like discussing, etc. If I said anything else they would question me up and down. I will just say its a pretty invasive surgery and I am required to be on bed rest for a week! Sounds reasonable, right? I'm just worried about how obvious it will be after 10 days if I am uncomfortable. I tend to be vocal about everything.
My other problem though is that I am single and dating a lot. I go on new dates all the time and I am talking to some guys now. I know its probably not a good time to start dating, but with my luck I'll meet Mr. Right the week before, haha. What do I tell these guys? If things did go somewhere, how long will I visibly look like I had surgery with the swelling and bruising? What if they try to come visit me while I am laid up? I am having a very small area to the chin but my face will be in a compression garment so I CAN'T see anyone for 10 days!! I am so stressed about this. I know a lot of people on here are married and the dating issue hasn't been discussed a lot. You are all wonderful and inspirational, so thank you for all the advice so far!
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