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Hi Dez...I was born with a larger than normal clitoris and I have had to deal with it my whole life. I just had labiaplasty done 3-4 months ago to remove excess skin but now I'm unhappy 1. because they did a bad job on my surgery and 2. I still have to large clit. So I'm still unhappy. So I know how you feel. I've been with my fiance for 3 years and I'm still selfconscious about it with him. Next spring I"m going to be getting reconstructive surgery done to fix the problem and am also having a Hoodectomy to shorten my clitoris. If you are thinking of surgery you may look into that. Sometimes just needing to remove excess skin can work but other times a Hoodectomy is needed.
If you are getting serious about this, post a pic so we can help you decide what would be best for your clitoris. We certainly aren't experts, so take us with a grain of salt, but we do have valuable advice based on our results..... some of us are happy, some of us aren't. And the advice from an experienced PS is best.
I've had labiaplasty with clitoral hood trimming, full body lipo, and fat grafting to the butt, cheekbones and lips... From my experience, I have learned that it's well worth the extra money, to go to whomever specializes in whatever you get done. Most PS are better at a certain something then all the other procedures they offer. 1. experience/specialty 2. good pictures!
I had a very large clit, that hug very very low. When I would sit on a toilet, it would had past my labia majora by about over an inch.... I had the sides of it trimmed. Which is not as big a procedure as a clitoropexy, or hoodectomy... And my clit is now very small and does not stick out further then I ideally want it to. But by reducing the skin at the sides of my hood, I can't retract the skin and get my clit to pop out like I could before, and because of that, the sensation has gone down a bit. I am very pleased. I think it is fine. I can still feel it in there, when I touch it, it will still make my leg spasm, and I am orgasming all the same, all the things I liked about my clit are still there, it's just harder to find, but when I find it, seems the same. I think it's for the better, because before, it was soo sensitive that no man could navagate it, and it was so sensitive it would just hurt really. Now it feels great 100% of the time. So the only sensation that went away is the OVER-sensitivity that I hated. And not because my nerves were damaged, but because I can't retract my entire clit anymore, I can only get 1/2 of it to pop out now, so I touch it through skin...... When my stitches dissolve, I may be able to retract the skin some more to get the little sucker to pop out more. ANYWAY... the more you do to your clitoral hood, the more you run the risk of changing the way your clit feels, pleasure-wise.
A clitrolopexy raises the clit, when someone feels it it too long from top to bottom.... Whereas, when skin at the sides of the slit is trimmed away, it doesn't change the length, it just makes the slit narrower, and makes it so it doesn't stick out as far...
I too had the sides of my clitoral hood shortened, as well as a labiaplasty. Honestly, I couldn't see my clitoris AT ALL. My theory is that my labia was so heavy that it pulled the hood over my clit. It did hang low, but it was just the hood that hung low. The clit was buried somewhere in there. Now my clit is swolen and I'm like "Yay! I can see it." And with part of the hood gone, I'm hoping that it gets more exposed because I remember before my labia stretched out to such a monstrous size, I could pull my clit out and see a full round ball, which was good. After a few years, I could only get the very tip of it to come out. Not even half. Anyways, enough about me. I think that you should consider trimming the sides, because that seemed to help some girls with larger clits. I'm hoping that it helps me too, even though mine is tiny. And then, if you still don't like it, then I'd go for a clitoropexy, which is more drastic.
I was born with both an enlarged clitoris and large labia and can honestly say that I like them that way. They have never caused me any discomfort otherwise perhaps I would have had something done to make them smaller. Excuse me if this is blunt, but the same way I enjoy seeing a man with a lot between his legs is the same perspective I have when it comes to the female body, it is visually more appealing to me (yes, I am hetero-sexual). I don't like the way society tells us women what size our breasts, clits, etc, should be. If it doesn't cause you discomfort, be okay with it. I guarantee you no one will kick you out of bed for it.
Pop-eyes, that is great that you are very comfortable with your body. A lot of us girls aren't. It's the same way as someone wouldn't like having small breasts, wrinkles, or a sagging stomach. Society never told me anything. I got my large labia at around age nine, and it bothered me even before I picked up any magazine or saw the mainstream images of naked women on the internet. I am a virgin, and no one has seen me down there. My past love interests would throw in those jokes about 'meat curtains' or sagging and huge labias, and even my current one did that, all in good humor. I did the surgery for me, and no one else. But it is a relief knowing that I can finally be intimate with someone and not have the stress of how I look ruin the moment for me.
I am not against any cosmetic procedure. We are all imperfect and would rather not be. If someone feels so strongly about any part of their body that it affects them in such a way than they most certainly should do something about it. At the same time, it is very difficult for us women, more so than men. I don't see men going out to get something done about their scrotum because it is too big, small, hangs too low, etc.. You get my point. There is nothing wrong with your surgery anymore than there isn't anything wrong with encouraging someone to be okay with their body. That was my point, sorry if I offended you.
Thanks eveyone for responding i really apperciate it. Its kind of comforting to know that im not at all alone in this situation. I recently had a labiaplasty on June 19th. I got my stitches taken out a week later. and now not even a month post op i am pretty much completely healed. It wasnt until about 3 days after my surgery when i looked at my self and realized that my clit was larger than "normal" i guess before i didnt realize because of all the extra skin. Now i am kind of frustrated with myself for not noticing this sooner because i could have had something done about it while i had my labiaplasty. I am still a little unsure if i want to go thru with second procedure but i will continue to resarch doctors and the different procedures further. I really appreciate your feedback guys! you help alot more than you know!!!
pop-eyes, I meant my post with no hard feelings. I knew that you were responding to the original post, of course. I was just putting in my opinion about how it's great that some people are so comfortable, while others aren't.
I don't know how large my clitoris is. I am still swolen from my surgery. Right now, it is larger than I remember. I too had a LOT of skin, and it was just buried in there. Honestly, I would be satisfied if it stayed a bit large, But since yours is probably larger than usual, I know that's a different story. You can always get the procedure if you really want to. Personally, I'd enjoy a large clit. Haha. I know, TMI here, but I haven't had a clitoral orgasm for years and years. I could never even get more than a tiny tip of my clit to come out. I'd get very depressed over this, more so than I'd probably be over a larger clit. As a positive way to look at it, your clit is now easier to find which is always a good thing.
Lana, just wanted to make sure you knew that my clit is harder to get to retract now that I had the skin at the sides trimmed... If you do something about it just be clear with your doc about your expectations, and make sure he is forthright, back.. I do know what you mean about men cracking jokes... I over heard some guys call big labia a "roast beef sandwich." grrr.
pixiecrumbcake, I do know that. But I think that it could go both ways. I've heard that getting the sides trimmed or even reducing the labia can make some women's clits more sensate. My main problem was that my labia was so heavy that it pulled everything down, and my clit was hidden. I am hoping that it'll be easier to access now, but we'll see. I got the sides trimmed for purely cosmetic reason, because I had a lot of skin at the sides.
I joined this website just to give my 2-cents here: I LOVE the way labia and clits look. I actually prefer pronouced, large lips and clits. It gives more to look at and more to play with. I think large tits are over rated. I'll take them as they are, large or small, and boob-jobs turn me off (only once have I ever seen a good candidate for fake tits: a stripper who was very beautifull except for the completely empty bags if skin hanging flat down her chest). And I think that it is a horrifying travesty to surgically reduce or alter ones vagina. To have your labia cut down is to remove one of the most beautiful structures in the universe. Labia are the doors to paradise, and your clit is the locus of ecstacy. I have seen uneven labia, extremely wrinkled ones, unusually dark lips, tiny lips and huge ones. All of them drove me crazy with lust, but regardless of other atributes, bigger is better. Uneven lips are great because it is unique and has personality. Unless you are a porn star, a man wants to love and lust for you. Labia are not like obesity, where we know what fitness looks like and pine for you to achive an ideal. Labia are like your eyes. It is the private, real you, and we want to make the unique, real you feel good.
Protruding lips give me something to see, touch, feel, lick and suck on. A large clit is likewise an object for attention. A clit that is hidden somewhere down there is only a concept, and as we all know, out of sight is out of mind. A man doesn't want to fumble around like an idiot looking for something he can't find, and he doesnt want to make a woman feel uncomfortable looking for something he cant find. Men are visual creatures. We need clues. Large lips and clits show the way to paradise.
We all have our foibles, fears, and insecurities. I wish I stuck with my excersize routine for years rather than months. I wish I was smarter. I wish I had a 12" cock, not because it would make you feel better, but because it would look cool. Most women would disagree with a rediculously huge cock, because it is not really that usefull. So it is with labia and clits. Surgically altering them serves no purpose but for the vanity of the owner. Most men (I assume there are squeamish guys with Freudian insecurities out there) Just want to play with what you have, whatever it is. All men want variety, and there is nothing you can do about that but manage it one way or another. Permanently changing yourself provides only a temporary satisfaction to your desire for change.
I have seen women be self concious about their bellies, hair, makeup, and pussies. Women are often consumed with making themselves prettier than their natural state. Getting all dolled up is great. But exploring a more natural state is fun too. Call me crazy, but I like the way a sweaty woman smells after the gym. Smells like woman! mmmmmmmm good! And I like the way a vagina looks (I admit I preffer waxed!). Please spend more time exploring your unique erotic lust, and less time planning to cut your naturally beautiful, unique pussies. I love you all.
Lol I don't think you're supposed to post on this board if you are a man. You made some interesting and good points though. I don't think labiaplasty is something to rush into, but I'm very happy with my decision. I understand the points you were trying to make, but in my opinion if you are so insecure about a part of your body that it interferes with your self esteem and affects your ability to be intimate with others, I say go for it. I was supported in this decision by my family doc, who has been my doctor my whole life, because she could see how upset and uncomfortable I was about it. There is something about a severe insecurity like that that can really make you feel really terrible. I was so insecure about my labia that I would get anxious about getting my pap test because the thought of exposing myself was just about the worst thing I could imagine. So you can maybe understand how this affected my intimate relationship with my boyfriend. I wasn't looking for a porn star body, but just to be comfortable enough to show and enjoy my body without anxiety anymore. & that's my 2 cents!
Im assuming I was either born with or received my extremely large hood and labia from being sexually abused as a child. I never knew until 4 yes ago I was any different. I'm so self conscious about it to the point I dont even like my fiancé looking at it. I didn't know other ppl had this problem and tried figuring out the causes whether from crazy hormones, genetics or being sexually abused. How much does the surgery cost and what type of doctor should I see? I'm embarrassed to even call to tell them what it's for.
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