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hi there, i'm worried. i'm 9 weeks post- op now, and the area around the clit is still very very swollen. or, to be honest, i'm not even sure if it's swollen, i just can't remember if it always looked like that.. anyway, the top part of the left labium is almost twice as thick as the left one, and there are at least five small hard bumps, and deep cracks (i'm really worried those could be permanent scars). besides, i can feel a hard line under the skin(don't really know how to describe it) all the way down the labia, the suture line i guess. which is very very visible on the left side (darker skin- then, hardened suture line- then soft pink skin). right side looks kinda normal, if it's dark and the person who looks at it is half blind. i sent some photos to my surgeon, but he keeps telling me stuff about dissolving sutures and irritated skin and that i should be patient. but its been NINE weeks today, and i look really messed up and horrible (and scary. i'd scare every potential lover to death.), and i didn't notice ANY improvement at all during the past 3 weeks, and now i'm wondering if something might have gone wrong and my surgeon is just afraid to tell me or whatever. sounds stupid i know, but i don't really trust him anymore because this can't be normal. or maybe it is? it's just that i didn't find any similar experiences on the web. should i wait some more time, go see my surgeon (he's very far away, so i've just been sending him pics so far), or panic and go to another surgeon? i'm getting kinda hysterical by now.. please.. help.. advice.. anyone?
thanks a lot... so i can still hope
i'm going to see my surgeon tomorrow and ask what's going on down there. i thought that maybe i should stop doing sports for a while, what would you say, can sports more than nine weeks post-op affect the healing process? or even the final outcome? i really don't like the thought of not being able to do sports for another couple of weeks, i'd really like to work out even if it takes more time to heal then. but if sports can affect the outcome, i'd stop to move immediately..
thanks, i'm glad. at least something...
can you tell me, how do i find out wheter these weird bumps are scars or just swelling? there are lots and lots of very hard bumps all along the labia that don't hurt when i touch them, at the top it almost looks like some weird kind of ugly.. flower or something. little fingers coming out of my labia. it is extremely disgusting and i am so tired of looking at it, but i just can't stop.. like people watching accidents.
I am also 9 wks post this past Tues and although I don't have any bumps I have what looks like "cracks" on both sides along the labia but in different spots on each. I thought maybe it is still healing because I found somewhere on this board that with the "trim method" that there are two layers, the underlying one and the outside one. However, it almost looks like there are two sets of lips parallel to each other when you look at it closely. I am also worried that this may be scars. I am having a lot of soreness suddenly that wasn't there 2 wks ago at the lower end by my vagina.
I have also read that the hard bumps you described may be undissolved sutures. I religiously used "dermaplast" in the blue can for the 1st 6wks and started to use it again today, it does help with irritation.
About your clit looking big, I am in the same boat. I don't think its swollen anymore either, I think that it is what it is at this point. There is also what looks like "notches" on both sides between the huge clit and the tiny lips. I wondered if I should have had a clitoral hood reduction also, but when I talked to my surgeon a few weeks ago he said he doesn't do that because there are too many nerves in that area. He also said it looks great, which at 9 wks later I'm still trying to see. My husband says it looks good but he was fine with it before. I don't think men care as much as we seem to think they do. I have pics posted on here through about 3 wks, I will be posting more soon.
1 thing is that the before and after pics they show you are mostly in the lying down position. If I use a mirror lying down it looks ok, but the clit looks no different while standing than it did before. I feel like I look deformed and I don't think it's going to change anymore than it already has. I guess we should look on the bright the side, while we're having sex we are usually lying down and from that view it looks ok. I almost wish now I would have had the wedge but I didn't think they would make them short enough. Plus they were dark & ugly. Let me know what your dr says, hang in there and get yourself some Dermaplast!
how short are your labia now? mine were really dark and ugly too, and now there is one tiny stripe left, maybe 1 mm, on the one side, on the other side there is something that looks like a suture line but isn't, and that's it, only skin around the clit. i looked at your pics, mine looks pretty similar, but with lots and lots of bumps and cracks and less labia. i saw my surgeon today, and he told me that these things were scars, definitely, also the hard lines where my labia are/ used to be. i now have two labia majora, and inbetween, i have a very entertaining looking scar gathering. i've got problems with my connective tissue, i obviously tend to get ugly keloids after injuries, so... whatever. i so much wish i have had the wedge technique but i don't complain too much since there's nothing i can change by now, i can only wait. i think there still is some swelling though, at least at the left side of my crippled labia because it's almost twice as thick as the right one. i mean, maybe it's alway been like that, i didn't really look. my surgeon said the scars will get more even and soft in weeks or months ("in weeks.. or months.. well, in months. maybe many months"), until that i should massage the scars. even he had to laugh about that. if it still looks like some weird kind of accident in, let's say, a year or something, i'll maybe go get the advice of a surgeon who really knows what he's doing, i found some who do nice reconstructive work... but i'm still hoping, and i totally agree with you that men don't care that much, and maybe i shouldn't have cared that much either, i definitely have a different attitude towards that by now, and having another surgery is definitely not what i'm gonna do if it turns out to look at least some kind of "normal" some day. but i really don't wanna look THAT mutilated for the rest of my life.
my surgeon said: "well, it doesn't look quite.. natural." he suggested that a clitorial hood reduction might improve the appearance of that THING down there, but i really don't feel like having another surgery right now. at least my nerves are not damaged, i can have sex (but i won't, cause i don't wanna scare the poor men to death), i can have orgasms, so - it could be worse. thank good i have quite a lot of gallows humor. i always think that i should be worried or sad or even desperate, or at least regret it, but.. i can't change it, so whatever.
i wish you good luck with dermaplast, hope that your two sets of lips are not scars, and.. yeah. keep me updated about what's going on down there. maybe i'll post some pics too, just to cheer up the other girls who are complaining about little holes or something
I took a good look today as the right side near the vajay is really sore and I couldn't see what is causing the pain though. I also noticed that on the left of my clit where it joins the new smaller labia there is like a hunk of skin missing, like a notch or a tear. It's funny because the right side hurts but looks better than the left. Also to the left right near the clit is seems like there is a lot more skin. He did take some skin off the right side but not the left so I wonder if this is why. I told him last time that I wasn't happy with the size of the clit and he says he doesn't do a hood reduction. And that with the big lips I had before that I would only notice those and not the size of the clit.
I last saw my surgeon at 6 wks post op and I was "discharged" but I told my husband that I might go back again if it keeps hurting like this. I have considered just going to my gyno but I think he might be mad I did this. I have been going to him for 20 yrs and he always said the size was normal. I might go get a 2nd opinion somewhere but I don't want to spend anymore $ that's for sure, and as far as another surgery I'm surely not ready for that either.
I am still undecided as of now whether or not I'm happy I did this.
To sum it all up the lips are tiny, I can't even hold them between my fingers now. I actually wanted more left than what is there now (I will try to get more recent pictures up this weekend) and the clit looks huge. Like I said before, lying down it looks ok I guess, and as far as the notch goes does anyone really look that close? I don't know!
Do you have pics to share? When I look at mine the before ones look pretty nasty. So what is worse, a huge clit and barely any lips or huge all over?
If I was you I wouldn't not have sex because of it as long as you feel up to it. Men really don't care as long as there's a clit to lick and a vajay to poke! lol
Good luck tho and keep me posted as to how things are coming along. The Dr that posts on here saus to give it 3 - 6 months.
on my left side, there's also a piece of skin missing, like a wave. maybe your and my surgeon have the same strange technique to perform this op the weird thing is, though i'm all scarred and really weird looking, i prefer this to what it looked like before. this is at least human failure (mine or the surgeon's, who knows) and not nature's.. i really hated it the way it looked before, now i find it kinda funny
i'm wondering what's causing your pain though, is it constantly there or only when you move or touch it? i think at 10 wks it should be completely healed.. but maybe there are some sutures left or something...?
i have had a nasty haematoma 2 or 3 wks post op, got it re-stitched, it opened up again and was all bloody and painful, and that side looks smooth and almost natural now, but the other side looks like an accident. i'll just wait and do nothing. this hood reduction thing, i'm also thinking about having it done, my surgeon offered me to do it for free but i don't really know if i wanna let him get near my clit and nerves with a knife.
i'm not exactly happy i did this, but i also don't regret it.. it looked ugly before, looks scary now, whatever, it still works. and i have some more months to go until i can see the final result.
i hope your pain subsides soon, i understand that you don't wanna go to your gyno, i'm not gonna see mine as well because he's gonna think i'm crazy or something.
i'll put up some pics in 2 or 3 weeks, when the massaging and contratubex started working, because then i have a nice little horrorstory to show.. i looked at all the labiaplasty photo albums up here, and there's noone with as much swelling and bruising i had.. i'm gonna put up my pics from day 1 to day 700 when it looks acceptable since i don't wanna scare the ladies off, i wanna show that it can only get better.. and that' what i'm praying for right now
damn, do i wish i looked like you..
i think it looks quite good. the pics are a little blurred so i don't really see the notch, i see the lines and i understand what you're complaining about, but i really don't think it's that bad. i think there's definitely no need for revision. i hope mine's gonna look more like yours some time. it's not 100% perfect but hey, who is? it looks better than before, and in a couple of months it's most likely gonna look even better so.. enjoy
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